What is Anxiety?
Anxiety is defined as: A feeling of unease, such as worry or fear and it varies in intensity. It is usually driven from what we think may happen in the future.
When we perceive a threat, our "fight or flight" response, our sympathetic nervous system is activated.
This system was devised when we were cavemen. If we crossed paths with say, a sabre tooth tiger, our hearts would beat faster. Pumping adrenaline and cortisol around our blood. This enables us to make instinctive responses to save our lives as we wouldn't have had time to think of an escape strategy.
Nowadays, there aren't any sabre tooth tigers hanging around. However, our bodies treat perceived threats in the same way.
When we are stressed, our fight or flight system is activated. If this happens over a period of time and we don't enable our “relax and digest system”, the parasympathetic nervous system, we can become susceptible to anxiety.
When the body has been under stress for a period of time this then becomes anxiety.
What Does Anxiety Feel Like?
Some people may feel anxious giving a public talk whereas others may feel anxious leaving their own home.
It can show up in different ways, one of the most common is excessive worrying. It is called “The what if game!” We spiral around in our mind coming up with new inventive ways of “What if this happens” and “What if that happens”.
To some level the majority of people experience anxiety but in varying degrees of severity.
We all experience it differently, for some, concentrating may be hard for others sleepless nights may be the symptom or it may show as a constant sense of unease.
Some of us aren’t even aware that what we are experiencing is anxiety. We think that we are “fine” and because we don’t “feel” anxious there is nothing wrong with us.
Anxiety is not just a feeling it is also excessive thoughts, rapid heartbeat, dizziness and potentially headaches.
It can be crippling and stop you from doing things you need to do and at its worst those you love. It’s that feeling that stops you from completing what at times seem like a simple task such as trying different food or visiting somewhere new.
So rather than going into the big superstores to buy our full shopping for the week, we might stick to our local shop which although overly priced feels safe to us.
Anxiety can show up when we are looking for a promotion at work and don’t put ourselves forward out of fear of rejection.
How to Know if You Have Anxiety
If you identify with some of the below you may experience anxiety:
Avoiding seemingly “easy” tasks
Not leaving the house
Lying awake at night
Heart beating fast
A knot in your stomach
Thinking of worst case scenario's
Being "fine" in an event that would usually induce stress
What Is the Difference Between Stress, Fear and Anxiety?
Stress is our initial response to a perceived threat.
Anxiety is what happens when we start to overthink about what could happen in spite of this.
Stress activates the sympathetic nervous system and hopefully, after the initial threat, we are restored back to normal functioning. Anxiety is when we remain in "fight or flight" mode for a period of time. Our bodies become overloaded.
Fear could be described as the feeling you get when seeing a thief jump out from behind a bush, anxiety is the feeling you might have while wandering through the alleyway, wondering if a thief is hiding behind the bush.
Is All Anxiety Bad?
Everyone experiences anxiety from time to time, this is normal and anxiety is not necessarily a bad thing.
Anxiety puts our bodies on high alert. It means we are able to perceive threats quickly and deal with them faster.
For instance, if we are anxiously preparing a report we may be more aware of errors as we are hyper-focused.
In life decisions, we can be more mindful in our choices. Say our partner is ready to get married, our anxiety can show us red flags that we need to address before settling down.
By pumping us full of adrenaline and cortisol we are more present and alert. Ideal for exams and getting our personal best on a 10k run.
If we were to approach life with no anxiety whatsoever we could make big life decisions without much thought. Potentially, we could end up marrying the wrong partner, move to a city we hate or climb a corporate ladder we have no real interest in.
How to Deal With Anxiety?
The fastest way to manage your anxiety is to activate your parasympathetic nervous system, this is the relax and digest system. The opposite of the fight or flight.
This enables you to calm your nervous system. i.e. How to calm anxiety.
Rhythmic breathing is the fastest way to enable this. Try breathing in for 4, holding for 2 and out for 6.
It is the rhythm of your breath that regulates you.
When to Reach Out for Help?
Knowing when to get help can be difficult. Especially if you have always been anxious, you may not know any different.
If you are finding everyday life sometimes manageable but other times it can get top of you meaning you can't go after bigger goals such as starting your business or starting a family then getting support is a good start.
Anxiety keeps us playing small. It makes us doubt taking the steps we want by filling us with fear.
If anxiety is impacting your life on a daily basis and/or you long to live life in a different way then getting support could be right for you.
Book your free 30minute call today to learn how you can start managing your anxiety and be on your way to living life how you envisage.